If you suspect you have an anxiety disorder you should contact your doctor and request an examination and advice on possible treatment.
As the partner of an anxiety sufferer, you may feel frustrated and powerless in relation to your partner's disorder and it is not abnormal if it affects your way of living together and for a time you may find yourself in a new role.Because anxiety can take up to eighteen months to treat it is important that you too are aware of what happens during the course of therapy.
You can do this by being actively curious and questioning about what your partner is going through in therapy, as well as how you can support.
Primarily, you should be prepared to listen rather than to propose solutions. Quiet support and encouragement to try again is what your partner needs.
You can possibly help to obtain the required help for your employee. While the person is receiving treatment, you can also be attentive and maintain an ongoing dialogue about their well-being and whether there is a balance between the demands of the job and the person's resources.
Many find that it is a private matter when they develop an anxiety disorder, so you can support them in finding the appropriate phrasing if there is a temporary need to reallocate jobs or responsibilities
You can also find valuable information at the library either in self-help books, pamphlets or documentary films about people who have suffered anxiety. Many people also find self-help groups to be beneficial.
Most people suffering from anxiety consider it a private matter and it is important to respect this, especially if the person is attending to their tasks and responsibilities adequately. If you have a close relationship with a colleague, you may be able to air your concerns that there are some situations where you find your colleague seems insecure or ill at ease.
This type of conversation should always take place where only you and your colleague are present. You should never bring this up at the lunch table. You should also always respect your colleagues wish not to discuss things.
If you find that the person's behaviour gives rise to problems in relation to working together, with clients or customers, you should begin with a concrete discussion of the issue, first with your colleague and perhaps later with your boss.
Read more about how other people have dealt with anxiety here.